I’ve been divorced for 13 years now to my first love. 13 years and I still have dreams about him. I have dated a couple of times, and one was very special to me. He’s still my best friend. Another passed away. But I don’t dream about them at all. I only dream about my ex. The dreams are all so varied. Some he hates me, some he wants me back, some he is with his now common law spouse, and some he is alone. Our children are often in these dreams, and they are usually much younger.
I told this to my daughter recently. She is staying with me for a short time, and we have interesting discussions. She simply said “you must have loved him a lot”. I did. I was devastated when it ended. However, I have never been happier, so I don’t understand why he keeps creeping into my dreams! It’s not like I would ever want to be back with him. I suppose I would like to be “friends” as best we can due to our three children, but that would be it. But maybe that would not be a good idea. Maybe, deep in my subconscious mind, I still love him no matter what happened. I don’t know. I can’t feel anything on a conscious level other then the fact I am loving writing, and drawing, and taking courses, and graduating from my PRISM Life Design Course, and standing up for myself because I feel empowered now. None of this likely would have come to be if I had stayed with him and continued to be made to be a minion. (I think minions are cute, but seriously… who wants to live like that… unless you are as rich as them… ha ha… creator was brilliant!)
I’m sure, through my courses, that I can deactivate these dreams… in the interim I will need to figure out how… 🙂 But here is to being happy, in spite of the dreams.